Protect Your Children From Digital Temptation
The average ago of exposure to pornography is 8. The top demographic in the porn industry is 12-17 year olds, and no, not just boys, girls as well. If that fact doesn’t give you a jolt, how about this one – the 28th most downloaded App in the Apple App Store is a photo ‘vault’ that is disguised as a calculator. Guess what type of photos it contains.
It’s hard to imagine that your son or daughter might be charged with a felony before they leave high school and end up destroying their chances at success later in life. This nightmare is a reality for parents around the country as well meaning children in dating relationships let their guard down to share pictures with their boyfriend or girlfriend that eventually end up all over school and the community. When the authorities are brought in, the trail of devastation is long.
As a parent of 5 children (21, 20, 3, 3, 2) I was disturbed by these tidbits of information on a variety of levels. When I was growing up there was no such thing as mobile devices. Even talking to a member of the opposite sex on the phone meant I was attached to the wall by a cord and my parents could here every word I said. Fast forward 20 years and our children have access to pornography and the opposite sex in their pocket by simply touching a button.
If you are a parent or a grandparent you might be asking yourself, ‘How can I protect my children from this temptation?’ Because of the easy road to pornography many of the devices and computers we have come with built in controls and restrictions. These tools can provide peace of mind and help fill in the gaps. Let’s face it. We can’t always be staring over their shoulder but we can use technology to limit and monitor activity.
Nothing technology offers will ever replace a parent. The best tool we have is communication and observation. And nothing beats truly knowing what is on the hearts of our children. But when those tools fail us or are not readily available we can use the same technology that tempts to protect. Simply limiting tfhe amount of time a computer will operate can be enough of a deterrent. If that’s not enough, there are options to completely restrict a mobile phone and limit it to it’s main purpose only. Yes, you can make them simply a phone.
Parents and grandparents have their own style. When I talk to parents that are dealing with pornography and the temptation of sexting I usually see two different philosophies. One style is to give the child all the access in the beginning and then take features away and limit activity as a punishment for poor behavior. And of course the opposite style is to limit any and all access until trust is built and freedoms are added based on preferred behavior and maturity. the philosophy is your choice based on your style and your child’s specific situations.
1 Corinthians 10:13 promises God will always give us a way out of any given temptation. While technology can be the perpetrator, it can also be the way out if you are properly trained and educated on it’s capabilities.
In His hands,
Scott Maulsby, firstname.lastname@example.org, 615-457-8000